Facebook post — 22 June 2026

facebook 22 June 2026

Some people should not be allowed to have kids. Or at least name them.

I am hiring engineers. Reaching out over WhatsApp with a "Hi <First Name>".

This candidate. Her name is Honey. Her actual first name, not her pet name, is Honey.

So I went "Hi Honey". And then I recoiled.

It's just wrong.

Imagine talking to her at work? "Honey can you get me some MAX232's from the IC drawer." Nope. Nope nope nope.

Who are these people naming their daughters Honey?

So yeah, I ended up actively discriminating against a candidate today, because using her first name made me feel creepy about myself.

The more I think about this, the worse it gets. Imagine there is a client in the office, and I am addressing this 21 year old woman as Honey, while I am 46. And this client has no context, no idea, what the woman's name is. They're just overhearing.

Do people not apply their brains at all when naming their children?

21 comments

Sameera SatijaLeave aside this particular issue for a moment and look around!! Do you think we are getting the basic infrastucture in return of the amount of taxes you pay? If your ans in NO then this protest is justified as it is to demand answerability
Abhinav ChandolaSo if I sent you a message, "Hey S, can you please unzip, mount, touch, and commit. Also please do not forget to unmount and flush after you yank it out and kill it", would you be a sudo and stop using linux as your work OS, or author a blame for the UNIX creators including Linus for continuing with this naming perversity. Taken out of context even benign things are ew! Hide
Sid Mallickwell she may have a last name which you could have used Hide
Sri KI had to deal with a client side Sweety buddy. Hide
Kaustubh BhawePrude Hide
Shiuli Subayalol honey that’s funny! You could call her Hunny and then it would really make you sound like you were speaking her Nick name?! Or Hunny beta? Hide
Shiuli SubayaWhy patriarchal? Even if a woman does the beta-ing? Hide
Umesh UnnikrishnanTIL that this is a real university: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Lovely_Professional_University That's probably where all the Honeys and Sweeties go to get their degrees Hide
Ekta SharmaCall her the way Punjabis pronounce Honnneeey Hide
Millie KhannaNaming someone you work with and mocking her name because she is from another community where her name is perfectly acceptable is in poor taste. Calling her Honey should be fine, it's the intent that matters. I had someone in my team with a name that sounded like a pet name, so maybe for some clients, frivolous for office work so I simply added ji to their name or referred to them as ma'am. Hide
Biju CherianHave you heard of Honey Singh? Male gender!! You are biased based on names!! Hide
Abhinav ChandolaAbhinav Chandola · 3w · by authorSo if I sent you a message, "Hey S, can you please unzip, mount, touch, and commit. Also please do not forget to unmount and flush after you yank it out and kill it", would you be a sudo and stop using linux as your work OS, or author a blame for the UNIX creators including Linus for continuing with this naming perversity. Taken out of context even benign things are ew! ReplyHide
Sid MallickSid Mallick · 3wwell she may have a last name which you could have usedLikeReplyHide
Sri KSri K · 3wI had to deal with a client side Sweety buddy.LikeReplyHide
Kaustubh BhaweKaustubh Bhawe · 3wPrudeLikeReplyHide
Shiuli SubayaShiuli Subaya · 3wlol honey that’s funny! You could call her Hunny and then it would really make you sound like you were speaking her Nick name?! Or Hunny beta?LikeReplyHide
Shiuli SubayaShiuli Subaya · 3wWhy patriarchal? Even if a woman does the beta-ing?LikeReplyHide
Umesh UnnikrishnanUmesh Unnikrishnan · 3w · by authorTIL that this is a real university: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Lovely_Professional_UniversityThat's probably where all the Honeys and Sweeties go to get their degreesReplyHide
Ekta SharmaEkta Sharma · 3wCall her the way Punjabis pronounce HonnneeeyLikeReplyHide
Millie KhannaMillie Khanna · 3wNaming someone you work with and mocking her name because she is from another community where her name is perfectly acceptable is in poor taste.Calling her Honey should be fine, it's the intent that matters.I had someone in my team with a name that sounded like a pet name, so maybe for some clients, frivolous for office work so I simply added ji to their name or referred to them as ma'am.LikeReplyHide
Biju CherianBiju Cherian · 3wHave you heard of Honey Singh?Male gender!! You are biased based on names!! LikeReplyHide